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Desire Discrepancy

Date:             15 March 2016

Time:             9am – 5pm

Cost:             $340 ($295 early bird)

Where:         Cambridge Hotel
                       212 Riley Street
                       Surry Hills  NSW  2010

Who Should Come?

Therapists * Counsellors * Psychologists * Coaches * Allied Health Professionals * Medical Practitioners * Sexual Health Practitioners


About the Workshop:

One of the most common presenting issues in relationship therapy (and individual therapy) is that of mis-matched libidos.

Often people wanting more sex are looked upon as selfish and deviant in some way.

Those with lower libidos are castigated and told they “should” feel like sex because “everybody else” does.

This workshop is designed to help practitioners work with couples facing the challenges of differences in sexual expectations.


 What the Workshop Covers:

  • Attitudes, Beliefs and Behaviours
  • Desire and arousal models
  • Factors that influence desire and arousal
  • Different libido/sexual personalities that people have
  • Developing a sexual menu
  • Negotiating sex for couples

Learning Outcomes

1.     Understand different sexual personality types

2.     Understand the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire

3.     Ability to coach couples to accept difference

4.     Frameworks and suggestions for couples to use when negotiating or talking about sex.

With Tanya Koens – Sex Therapist and Relationship Counsellor

Tanya runs a busy practice in Surry Hills in Sydney and has many thousands of hours of clinical practice as a sex therapist and relationship counsellor.  She works with a variety of clients from single males and females, through dating and married couples, same sex relationships, kink, poly and gender queer.  She also lectures and teaches about sex and sexuality. 

Tanya’s focus is on conscious and authentic relating.  Her approach is practical, uses humour and draws on many different counselling frameworks and models to help people relate authentically and consciously to themselves and others.