Sex Therapy & Coaching

I think every girl needs a Tanya
in their back pocket!
— Female, 34

Clients come to Tanya for many different reasons and often the presenting issue is a symptom of greater things at play.

People often feel embarrassed, concerned or nervous about seeking assistance and this can sometimes get in the way of them getting the support they really need. If this sounds familiar, it may help you to know the following:

  • Not understanding that sexual desire can work differently according to people’s different genital configurations often contributes to mis-matched desire levels. Sex therapy can help individuals and couples explore problems and differences to develop working solutions to achieve a happy and balanced sex life and improved intimacy.

  • Desire issues for many people are often caused by experiencing pain or discomfort.  When people come for sex therapy they can experience immediate improvements when they learn about the physiology of pleasure.

  • Research shows that up to 25-35% of people with vulvas are unable to achieve an orgasm.  Talking to a sex therapist can help uncover and overcome mental and physical blocks to orgasm.

  • Experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED) is a part of getting older, up to 40% of men in their 40s experience ED and this figure rises to as high as 70% of men in their 70s.  If you experience it once or twice, it does not mean it will happen every time!

  • Premature ejaculation has a number of different origins and will be treated differently according to the person’s background. 

  • SSRI Anti-depressants can affect sexual desire and stimulation. Some studies have shown that as many as 71% of folks taking these medications experience a loss of desire and sexual stimulation.

  • Sexual addictions/compulsions affect approximately 10% of the population. This figure is increasing with the ease of availability of sexually explicit material on the Internet.

Thank you for your warmth, understanding and wisdom during our Counselling sessions. It is now much easier to talk about our thoughts, feelings and wishes regarding our sex life and we have made some nice discoveries.
— Couple, mid 30s


Often couples find it difficult to talk to each other about sex and this is where sex therapy can help. Tanya provides a safe, non-judgmental place to explore sexual problems or concerns.


Sex therapy areas of specialisation:

Sometimes people need a helping hand to get them through difficult stages in their sexual relationship - there is nothing wrong with this. It is much better to get the problems sorted out than let them go unattended. We can help you with:

  • Desire discrepancy (mis-matched libido)

  • Low sexual desire (loss of libido)

  • Premature ejaculation

  • Delayed ejaculation (inability to ejaculate)

  • Impotence/erectile dysfunction (difficulty in gaining or maintaining an erection)

  • Performance anxiety

  • Difficulty with orgasms for women

  • Painful intercourse (Dyspareunia)

  • Vaginismus (difficulty in achieving penetration)

  • Female sexual arousal/desire

  • Gender identity & sexuality

  • Sexual orientation

  • HIV/AIDs emotional support

  • Intimacy

  • Sexual abuse and its impacts

  • Sexual compulsions

  • Internet porn addiction

  • Relationship difficulties

  • Coaching and advice on polyamory and open relationships

  • Sexuality and ageing

  • Exploration of sexual expression such as kink, swinging, cross dressing, fetishes, and other preferences.