Sex Therapy & Coaching

I think every girl needs a Tanya in their back pocket!
— Female, 34

People work with to Tanya for many different reasons and often the presenting issue is a symptom of greater things at play.

People often feel embarrassed, concerned or nervous about seeking assistance and this can sometimes get in the way of them getting the support they really need. If this sounds familiar, it may help you to know the following:

  • Female sexual desire works differently to male sexual desire and can contribute to mis-matched desire levels. Sex therapy can help individuals and couples explore problems and differences and develop working solutions to achieve a happy and balanced sex life and improved intimacy.

  • Desire and pain issues in women can often be caused by experiencing pain or discomfort.  Many men, women and couples can learn about the physiology of pleasure when they come for sex therapy and experience immediate improvements.

  • Research shows that up to 25-35% of women are unable to achieve an orgasm.  Talking to a sex therapist can help uncover and overcome mental and physical blocks to orgasm.

  • Experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED) is a part of getting older, up to 40% of men in their 40s experience ED and this figure rises to as high as 70% of men in their 70s.  If you experience it once or twice, it does not mean you are impotent!

  • Premature ejaculation has a number of different origins and will be treated differently according to the person’s background. 

  • SSRI Anti-depressants can affect sexual desire and stimulation. Some studies have shown that as many as 71% of females taking these medications experience a loss of desire and sexual stimulation.

  • Sexual addictions/compulsions affect approximately 7% of the population. This figure is increasing with the ease of availability of sexually explicit material on the Internet.

My life has improved ten fold since coming to see you.
— Female, 28


Often couples find it difficult to talk to each other about sex and this is where sex therapy can help. The counsellors at Surry Hills Therapy provide a safe, non-judgmental place to explore sexual problems or concerns.


Sex therapy areas of specialisation:

Sometimes people need a helping hand to get them through difficult stages in their sexual relationship - there is nothing wrong with this. It is much better to get the problems sorted out than let them go unattended!

  • Desire discrepancy (mis-matched libido)

  • Low sexual desire (loss of libido)

  • Premature ejaculation

  • Delayed ejaculation (inability to ejaculate)

  • Impotence/erectile dysfunction (difficulty in gaining or maintaining an erection)

  • Performance anxiety

  • Difficulty with orgasms for women

  • Painful intercourse (Dyspareunia)

  • Vaginismus (difficulty in achieving penetration)

  • Female sexual arousal/desire

  • Gender identity & sexuality

  • Sexual orientation

  • HIV/AIDs emotional support

  • Intimacy

  • Sexual abuse and its impacts

  • Sexual compulsions

  • Internet porn addiction

  • Relationship difficulties

  • Coaching and advice on polyamory and open relationships

  • Sexuality and ageing

  • Exploration sexual expression such as kink, swinging, cross dressing, fetishes, and other preferences.

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